My family has hit a bit of a rough patch. Last month about 30 of us traveled to our native Jamaica to bury my beloved uncle and shortly after we returned to the United States my grandaunt followed him. Both of of their passing came without warning and my priorities had to shift a bit as a result, and after both events.
I have a number of things in the blogging pipe including a giveaway that I will post later this week. However, I wanted to do something, simple for today’s blog post. Let’s talk about the evolution of my hair.
As you know, I have been wearing braids for the last several months. I finally took them out last week and it left me feeling some kind of way. I stopped relaxing my hair when it started coming out in bundles last July. When I took the braids out, I discovered a patch of thick, healthy, natural hair that left me feeling,…some kind of way.
After my experience, you would probably think that I would just go natural but I’ve been down the natural hair path before. In February of 2010, I chopped all of my hair. I absolutely loved it. I washed it everyday, slapped some gel in it and I was good to go. However, when I allowed my hair to finally grow out and I realized that it was something that I would have to wrangle with everyday, I gave in.
It’s not that I don’t like the texture of my natural hair or think I look different with it. I am lazy when it comes to my hair and if I have to spend any more than 5 minutes in it I get frustrated. Natural hair involves all kinds of moisturizing and sealing and twisting and detangling and bantu knots and braid outs that I just didn’t have the patience for. Not to mention, it was hard, well for me impossible, to reach the back of my head to try any of those techniques.
So now I am sitting here with half relaxed, half natural hair and an appointment to see Karaine on Friday and I am still clueless as to what I will be walking out with. Sigh!
Let’s examine my hair journey from 2010 until present day!
February 2010. I went a few weeks past my 8 week max limit, walked into my salon and asked my then hairdresser to cut all of my hair off.
November 2010- Frustrated, with the efforts with my hair, I reverted back to the relaxer. It would take several more months of growth to finally get rid of all of the brown/reddish hair that was left over from a DIY dye job.
May 2011 – With all of the red gone, I finally allowed my hair to grow!
August 2011 – This was actually a wig that I wore to my cousin’s wedding.
August 2012 – 2 months post relaxer. Absolutely, gorgeous healthy hair that I had been cut into a bob in May of 2012! I had stopped relaxing my roots and was getting my hair blown out at a Dominican salon when this was taken.
September 2012 – Five months post relaxer. Ironic that my hair was at the same stage that it is now (half and half). I went to Fashion blogging event in New York with my gorgeous blown out hair and got caught in a rain storm. All of the new growth poofed up just like Beyonce’s character’s hair did in the movie Austin Powers. I was mortified! I was still going to a Dominican salon at this time and since I didn’t want to cut all of my hair off to go natural again, I decided that it was time to get my hair relaxed.
My hair troubles began the minute I allowed the Dominican stylists to apply the no-lye relaxer to my hair. Like natural hair, no-lye relaxed hair will break if it is not maintained properly. I didn’t know this at the time and no one bothered to tell me either.
Feb 2013 – It looks healthy, but trouble was brewing!
June 2013 – By this time, I definitely knew there was a problem so I stopped relaxing my hair again and stopped going to the Dominican salon. My aunt created this style using several hair pieces.
August 2013 – This was a wig that I wore for a blogging assignment! Under my wig was fresh relaxed hair from a new salon. My hair came out in bundles and I was advised to take a long break from relaxers, which as you know I did.
October 2013 – Wig for another blogging project.
October 2013 – My press and curl. This was the last time I saw my hair straight.
By the way, I had to throw in a couple of the wig photos. It was an option, then, but it’s not an option for me now. The new growth of my hair is to thick to allow a wig to sit properly on it. I was also able to blend my hair with all of the wigs, (of course except the blue one) to that it looked more natural.
So here are my options:
- Weave. I thought about getting a full head of weave, but I watched my mother getting hers done last week and it looked quite painful.
- Locs. Do I have to moisturize and seal these also?
- Relaxer. Will I have to go through this cycle again (healthy to damaged)?
- Braids. Four more hours in the chair and run the risk of losing the hair on my temples?
- Natural. Umm, no I really don’t think so!
- Wig. Not even a stocking cap could help the wig sit properly on my scalp. I also can’t blend it because of the two textures of my hair.
- Cut. I actually did like the pixie. It was easy to manage.
So which one of the above styles was your favorite. I am also open to suggestions.